Interviews with women who have undergone bariatric surgery and full body makeovers surprisingly reveal that they do not feel better after spending hundreds of thousands of dollars creating themselves by putting themselves under the knife.  This begs the question, “Why?”  This is because they inevitably feel like frauds.  High maintenance women who work hard to look good feel like frauds because they know the process involves enormous effort, money and deception.  Deep down in their hearts they know the product they have co-created with their surgeons is not them. Feeling like a fraud engenders chronic destructive stress and anxiety.  These feelings are all pervasive and keep you trapped because you feel vulnerable about being exposed as an imposter.  This sets up a vicious cycle where you “cannot rest on your laurels”.  Your anxiety and stress further exacerbate your obsessive need to improve yet another imperfection on your body thus setting you up for a series of never-ending procedures.  You have put yourself in a “no-win” situation.

The only way out is to learn to value and accept yourself and treat your body with a great deal of respect.  After all, it is the “temple of your soul”.  Give your body what it really needs and stop torturing it.  Remember, those who mind how you look do not matter and those who matter do not mind how you look!  Cutting yourself to look beautiful certainly does not cut it!

Have a look at this video for some common outcomes of  ’celebrity cosmetic surgery’ - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zZtcW6MKNz4

Is selling out an option?  Of course!  But it may not be the best choice as there are unpleasant consequences.  In the book, “How to stop worrying and start living (first published in 1948)”, Dale Carnegie advocated the following timeless advice for managing our problems:

1. Imagine, what is the worst thing that can happen to you?  Get a pen and paper and write it down.  Get clarity on exactly what you are afraid of.
2. Now, mentally and emotionally accept the worst.  Once you accept the worst, anything else is bonus.
3. Create a plan of action for preventing this scenario.  You have the answers within you; trust yourself to make this plan a good one.
4. With this plan, go right into action.  The magic is in moving swiftly into action.  No one climbs a mountain looking at it.   Click on the following link for more http://www.westegg.com/unmaintained/carnegie/stop-worry.html